The Weaker Girl

 So I am writing this post while listening to a song called "Weaker girl" by Banks. Jillian Rose Banks sings about how she used to be the weaker girl, and how she needs a bad mother fucker liker her. The song is about a girl who grew stronger and she's now looking for someone who matches her strength. The weaker girl used to follow when she's told where to go. She turns down this guy cause he needs her to be the weaker girl and he is mad that she grew strong. Long story short, this song speaks volumes and I am inspired to write this.

For the past few months I have been so obsessed about writing about inner strength  and I dont think its about to stop. Weakness is not an illusion and it is real. Women struggle with this all the time and in the end they are stuck. This post is dedicated to all the women who need to "unstuck" themselves and rise out of the ashes of their weaknesses. Our minds are a powerhouse, and our source of strength. I keep imagining all these wheels and cogs spinning to keep the mind running. In reality our inner workings are truly important and its best to always work on the inner being to match the outer. 

So, the weaker girl, defined, is a girl stuck, trapped in waves of emotions, and unable to look beyond what she feels. Her judgement is clouded by false feelings that engulf her like a wave and while she is drowning, she acts out. She is lost in a sea of thoughts, and her mind is no longer a power house but a prison. She is unable to make sound choices and daily lives in regret. She is in a self destructive phase, tearing down everything around her. She has nothing to offer and in that state anything can mislead her. She is stuck in herself.

I have been here before, and it is not a fun place to be. I will save you the dramatics and fast forward to the juicy dets. There is a theory that, we are made stronger in our weaknesses. That it is in the moment of weakness where beauty lies, and that we must not undermine the lows. We can choose to look at our point of weakness as an opportunity of rising. A chance to be better versions of ourselves and no longer stuck in the place where our heel was struck. The weaker girl is the beginning of every strong woman. She must first take a deep dive in the lows and overcome them all. Her beauty at both stages is something to take note of. There is no strength without weakness. The light always comes after dark and we can always harness the strength we need in our weakest points. I do not despise the weaker girl, and I do not take pride in strength. Both are a journey and maturity is knowing that you must go through it if you want to beat it. 

So the next time you feel like you are the weaker girl, take a deep breath, smile and know that the strength you need is entirely and wholey inside you. You have everything you need on the inside, your mind is as good at building as it is good at tearing down. The power is knowing how to keep building even when you keep feeling like you are destroyed.